The jewelry store ads have kicked it into high gear and whether you know it or not, your significant other is taking mental inventory of your relationship. During the holidays it’s only natural to reflect on the year past, and to think of what you’d like to accomplish in the year to come. For some it’s as simple as losing weight or finding a better job, but for others it’s time to take their relationship to the next level.
I have been performing weddings for years, but just recently began advertising and focusing on growing my business, so this “season” is fairly new to me. I wanted to understand why we see such a dramatic spike in engagements this time of year, so I started doing a bit of research. I started by searching “holiday proposal” followed by “Christmas Wedding Proposal” and “Holiday Engagement”. Google searching yielded plenty of tips and tricks on how to get your boyfriend to propose, but not a lot of reasons behind the holiday spike. What was even more interesting to me were the “Will He Propose?” articles and quizzes. Just about every “Will He?” article and quiz pointed to a greater likelihood of proposal around the holidays and Valentine’s Day. Finally I came across this article from the Washington Post. In it, my advertising partners Wedding Wire offer some great insight to this phenomena and the numbers to back it up.
According to Wedding Wire, 33 percent of all engagements happen between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day, and author Ellen McCarthy reasons that, “if a guy’s gonna pop the question eventually, he might as well use the opportunity to avoid shopping for a holiday gift and kill two birds with — ahem — one stone.” However I think there’s more to it. By that I mean that there are, or at the very least could be more factors that contribute to this spike in engagements and I want to examine them now.
Aunt Sheila is that annoying relative that always asks, “When are you going to get married?” Or even worse she says things like, “Why would he buy the cow when he’s getting the milk for free?”
The flip side to Aunt Sheila is Uncle Al. Uncle Al scowls at you across the table and loudly asks questions like, “When are you gonna make an honest woman of her?”
Whether you are saving it for marriage or you already have two kids together, public displays of affection at your parent’s house can be odd. However with the holidays, the awkwardness hits an all-time-high, especially if you’re staying the night. Going to her parent’s place for three days? That’s three days of acting more like lab partners than lovers, forcing you to save your affections until you’re all alone. That is unless…
Nothing is more strange than sleeping separate from the person you sleep next to every night. What’s worse is when your parents discuss the sleeping arrangements. Finally being able to sleep next to your significant other without family stigma (see Aunt Sheila) is enough to make a man go ring shopping.
Has your girl or guy’s Mother ever said this phrase, “What I really want are some grandchildren?” Are you sick of hearing that yet? Chances are your future spouse is too. A proposal just might get your Mom (or future Mother-In-Law) to pump her brakes, except that then she might start knitting booties.
That’s my take on holiday proposals. What’s yours? Be sure to post up in the comments. Please remember, while I try to provide interesting and funny content, these blogs are to promote my business. So, if you are getting married or even just getting engaged, you’ll need a minister or officiant to perform the wedding.