Ladies and Gentlemen,
I’ve discussed engagement season before but it is time that I revisit. You see, the majority of engagements happen between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day (roughly 40%) and we are now over the proverbial hump. Yes friends the Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and my personal favorite the New Year’s Eve proposals are over and all that remains are the Valentine’s Day proposals. If you’re reading this, chances are you got engaged during this season (be it 2013, 2014, or even 2012) and I want you to know that (1) I’m glad that you’re here, and (2) I’ve been expecting you.
On Monday you will return to work and that is when the real planning begins. If you didn’t know already, most brides and grooms plan their weddings from their desks at work. It’s true. While you should be earning the pay for the wedding, you will likely spend a significant amount of time spending (or planning how to spend) money on wedding vendors, favors, decorations, etc.
Don’t worry, I am here to help. I have dealt with hundreds of couples that have told me numerous stories (both success stories and horror stories) about wedding planning at work. Over the years I have learned a thing or two and I am prepared to share my knowledge with you now. Here are Chaplain Chris’ 5 helpful hints to being a wedding planning ninja, and specifically for planning your wedding while at work.
1. Your Boss Already Knows
Whether you’re friendly with your boss or not, s/he already knows you’re engaged. How? Well, you’re wearing a ring aren’t you? If so, lots of people in your office will notice and let’s be honest, you can’t wait to show it off.
Even if you’re not the ring-flashing kind, you’ve already messed up. How you ask? Well, you know that one friend that you’re cool with at work? Yeah, the one person you trusted enough to add on Facebook? Well she saw your pictures and now she want to see the ring.
Like gossip, the knowledge of your engagement will spread and the unavoidable squeals coming from the break room will not go unnoticed. By the end of the day your direct supervisor will know. So when considering planning your wedding at work, keep in mind that you’re not fooling anyone and that will keep you on your toes.
2. Leave No Trace
Remember that this is a work zone, therefore it should be free of any outward signs of wedding planning. That means that you should leave your magazines, bookmarks, and definitely your planning binder at home. Here’s the part where you tell me that you’re only going to look at your binder on your lunch break, and this is the part where I tell you that your pants are on fire.
These people are paying you to do a job, so when they see that your focus is divided, or worse yet, that you’re not doing the job you’re being paid for, they will begin to wonder if they should continue paying you at all. Home can look like a DIY Pinterest tornado hit and that’s fine, but your work space should be focused on work.
3. Turn Your Speakers Down
Lots of wedding vendor websites have music and/or video that will play automatically when you visit their site. and I can tell you from experience, there is nothing more startling than Canon in D blaring out of your speakers while at work.
4. The Right Tools
I don’t get paid for the advice I am about to get you. In fact, in the case of Wedding Wire, I actually pay them to advertise there. However, there’s no denying the tools and insight available on WeddingWire.com and similar sites.
On Wedding Wire you can create seating charts, guest lists, and they have plenty of helpful blogs and articles to spark ideas and to simplify the planning process. The best part is that it’s online so it’s work-friendly.
If Wedding Wire is too mainstream, the other site that I recommend is Offbeat Bride. OffbeatBride.com offers similar tools to Wedding Wire with blogs, great articles, planning checklists, and more.
5. Don’t do it alone.
As your wedding officiant and having years of experience in this industry, I would be happy to recommend whatever vendors you need to finish planning your wedding, but that’s not what I meant. I meant that you should stand on the shoulders of those that have gone before you. What do I mean? I mean reviews, testimonials, pictures, and most importantly Forums!
My sister lived on TheKnot.com forums when planning her wedding, and there are plenty of brides just like her. You won’t be the only person planning at work, and you’re not the only person with that question or concern. So lean on the community. The resources are vast and valuable.
This is an exciting time in your lives and there is a lot of work to be done before you walk down the aisle, but hopefully, you can navigate these waters with a balanced approach to work and wedding. Engagement season is on and I hope that you’re excited.
Thanks for reading, and please don’t hesitate to call me at 949-342-4275 or to contact me with questions or comments. I try to make these blogs informative and fun but of course, I also want you to hire me as your Long Beach or OC wedding officiant, so if social media or a simple Google search brought you here, take a look around and then contact me to discuss your custom ceremony.
Remember, you’re unique, and you’re wedding should be too.